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    I heard a bride ask the question ‘should I let a family member make something for my wedding or should I get a professional?’

    I found it an interesting question one I have seen both sides of the coin in relation to the answer so here is a glimpse into my opinion as a wedding professional, sentimental and creative friend.

    I love design, I love things that look beautiful and building a house for me was a dream coming up with design ideas and seeing it all come to life. There were some things I could do well myself, somethings I asked talented friends and family to do and sometimes I got in the pros to help me make my vision come to life so I think there is a place for them all. When I recently built my first home I didn’t do it myself, while I designed it, had mood boards and a gazillion ideas I had to bring people in to help me. I mean my pinterest board was awesome but that wasnt going to actually happen without a team of builders, electricians, surveyors, home loan experts, friends to spitball ideas off of and well the list was a long one.

    I am awfully nostalgic…. Like awfully! I have my grandmas hydrangeas in my garden because they bring back so many childhood memories, I had the hand lettering on my website done by a dear friend partly because she is super talented but also because it reminds me of her cheery self and her passion, strength and faith, I always look at it and think of her. I admit that I secretly love that my dad and mum have artwork I made when I was 11 in their homes and my dad is like Darryl Kerrigan from the castle and thinks is the greatest work of art when really its sculpture of an outback house made out of clay not the statue of David. I love that a friend of mine does flower arrangements for all her sisters and friends bridal showers or baby shower, I love that another friend crochets one of the cutest animal toys you have ever seen every time her loved ones have a baby (yes I not so secretly want a child just to get one of these creations).  I love when I get to put my hand up and use my creativity to help out my friends when I can bake for them or photograph their special days or plan Christmas Parties with my god daughter so she can share the meaning of Christmas with her friends. There is something so special about either having something that someone you know and love has created or being able to be part of someones memories and special moments by letting them use your creative talents.

    When planning your wedding I find there is no difference to this. There are so many great wedding vendors in Adelaide who can help with designing your wedding and make it look a treat but its like the icing on the cake when your friends and family created it for you. When you team together  talented wedding suppliers and the added details from your loved ones its almost the perfect combination. As a photographer I delight in knowing those personal touches so I thought I would share some of my favourite wedding things made by friends and family for the wedding.


    These bridesmaids gowns made by bridesmaid and talented dress designer GretaKate

    When your a hair stylist and your friends do your hair and make up for you

    Wood invitations and stationary were done by an aunty from love letter press

    Wedding bouquet by a friend with succulents grown by your husband

    Fondant cake topped with hand pained flowers made by the mother of the bride or this naked cake from another talented Aunt


    A Beaded Wedding Dress made by the brides Grandmother


    Now this is where the friend and professional speaks…Here are a few things I think are helpful to note..

    1. When creative friends and family put their hands up to help they want to help. If they dont they may not want to make you feel pressured into using you  or they may actually not want to help…but ask, you wont know unless you ask. Read the signs and if they are hesitant in their response perhaps assume they don’t want to help but you can always ask.
    2. If they do it for a living still pay them, if they give you a discount awesome but dont expect one.
    3. Think about their style and if it matches your vision before you enlist their help.
    4.  Know their is a huge fear of disappointing a friend so be kind and loving when working with friends.

    My personal view is to work with wedding professionals in your wedding day they are so creative, resourceful and can often save you money verses, time and stress to bring your vision to life and if you do have talented creative people in your life incorporate them into your wedding day. It adds that personal touch, allows people to use their craft to celebrate and bless you… In years to come when you look back at your wedding photos and see the cake mum made or the gown your grandma crafted you will treasure the memory even more because it was made especially for you from someone who loves you and that memory is priceless!



    I have been very absent from blogging this year… Well very absent is stretching it. I think I have maybe published something once so pretty much non existent blogging. Some of you may have missed my pretty images and my ramblings some of you were probably happy that the extremely bad grammar often found here wasn’t hurting your eyes over the past months. And to all my couples whose weddings I have not shared on here yet I say sorry.

    I truly am.

    Truth is this year has been tough, wonderful, crazy, a lot of change, a lot of tears, a lot of doctors visits and a lot of work. Its been a roller coaster and the optimist I am has chosen to take the positives from it but its been a lot and I had to let something slip and this was it.

    Professionally my number one priority this year has been for me to be present and fully focused on my couples wedding days or when I get to spent time with your families. To give all of myself to capture the beautifully special images I get the honour of capturing. I don’t take what I do lightly. Its a gift… A True gift.

    My second priority was  crafting and editing these images and getting them to you to enjoy. But if I am being honest that’s taken a mighty effort just to do that and a lot of other things like blogging have not been prioritized or able to fit into the 70 hour plus work weeks I was doing.

    Aside from work I have had a hectic year, I build a house and have moved in and am now making that a home, I had the privilage of spending time with and caring for my grandpa in his last months, I have grieved for the sweetest man I ever knew, I have traveled to Europe for work and gazed at some of the most beautiful works of arts, I have made new friends and tried my hardest to connect with old ones. At times I have felt pulled in a gazillion directions and at times felt directionless, I have experienced big change good and not so good, I have dealt with neurological issues that have meant a shift in how I run my business and my life and am trying to find balance and a new normal in it all. In the past few weeks have had enough energy, strength and room in my mind to start dreaming again about the future of me, my camera and this crazy thing we call life. It has been a (insert adjective that means change oriented, refining, hard, adventurous, love filled and eventful) year but I would not change it.

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    This year I have loved, I have come to a new level of appreciation for my loved ones (and there are lots of you), for loving others and for living every moment with kindness and joy. I have been refined and I am better for it.

    So as well as my apology I say thank you. Thank you for your patience with me when I told you I couldn’t edit for two months, thank you for giving me space to grieve, thank you to all my clients and friends who knew I was juggling a lot and took one less ball out of my hands or came alongside me and helped me through chatting, second shooting, unpacking my home, going for walks, watching the Bachelorette, praying for me, drinking tea, making my travels a dream come true and helping me keep the balls in the air. Whether you knew it or not you were refreshment to my soul.

    Thank you to all my clients for bringing me good times and letting me share your most special and sacred moments and letting me dance it out on the dance floor. I appreciate them more than ever!!!!

    I cant emphasize enough how brilliant you all are….. Truly my clients are some of the best people you will ever meet… The Best!!!  In sharing your special days I have had the time of my life just like this guy did when when he had his Patrick Swayze moment at a recent wedding…  (You are all welcome 🙂

    To my second shooters Jess H & Lochie you have been over the top fantastic and supportive and have helped me at every turn as well as Amelia and Jess K who have always been available and willing to help. I can’t thank you all enough. Like seriously can’t thank you all enough!!!!!

    The changes I have made in recent months have been so I can focus on my love of shooting and capturing your images. This has meant I teamed up with the talented people to help me edit these images get them to you faster and looking ah-mazing!!!

    So keep posted as hopefully it wont be as long between drinks and you will see some beautiful wedding lighting up your screens in the near future.

    Carly xoxo



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